In Mrs. Dalloway, Sally Seton initially appears as a rejection of the social conventions which govern Clarissa and the people around her, but in the final act she takes on a whole different meaning for both Clarissa and the reader. In Clarissa’s memories of Bourton, Sally is described as loud, impulsive, politically radical, and seemingly unconcerned with the expectations placed upon women of her class. When she appears again at the party as Lady Rosseter, she is no longer the girl Clarissa once loved, “her eyes not aglow as they used to be” (177). By showing Sally’s life as not only parallel, but similar to Clarissa, Woolf breaks the illusion of the alternate, more meaningful life Clarissa imagined. Sally goes from representing an idealized symbol of rebellion and self-expression to just another person who succumbed to the restrictions of society.
This is perhaps why Clarissa’s relationship with Sally is remembered so intensely. Sally represents a version of Clarissa which could exist without the restrictions of marriage, class, and social expectation. Their relationship had an intimacy which Clarissa cannot easily reproduce in her adult life; one she longs for deeply. The kiss between them is not presented merely as an adolescent romantic moment, but as part of Clarissa’s memory of a time when relationships seemed capable of existing outside the social structures which later define them. That Sally that Clarissa knew, or at least the one she remembered, has been destroyed with adulthood.
At the same time, I do not believe that Woolf intends Sally’s later life to invalidate the freedom she represented, instead she aims to show how Clarissa’s imagination of this freedom is deeply flawed. Sally Seton’s development into Lady Rosseter represents how rebellion, as long as it remains symbolic, will surrender to the accepted reality. She represents the futility of solely dreaming for change, exactly what we see Mrs. Dalloway do for the entire novel. Clarissa is so restricted by society that her only chance for escape, even in childhood, was her imagination. She views Sally not as a person, but as a symbol, and in her memory this symbol becomes distorted through her dissatisfaction with her own life.

